Sunday, May 31, 2009

Marriage Monday: Close the Grand Canyon and Love From New Hope's Marriage Ministry



Hey gang!

Today for Marriage Monday, I have a thought of connection and then I’m going to share some things from my church’s Marriage Ministry newsletter.

It was the 1980’s when Rick Springfield came out with a song that speaks to one of the major giftings of being married, Human Touch. He told us that we all needed it, and not just him but all of us need it so.

Sometimes we get so consumed that we forget that. Today, I was sitting in a Sunday School class and I sit in a chair next to the wall. I had always put my books down in the seat next to me because I had been going to class by myself because my wife was helping out in the nursery. I didn’t think about it.

My wife sat in the seat next to the books and didn’t say anything. However, about midway through class I realized something. I was the only husband in class not sitting directly next to my wife. That’s right. The only one. I said nothing to my wife about it thinking that she probably didn’t care. However, we got home and she asked my daughter Megan a question while we were standing in the kitchen. “Megan, are daddy and mommy close to each other standing where we are?” Of course we weren’t. We were almost on opposite sides of the kitchen. She next instructed Megan to show daddy what close to mommy meant. Message delivered. I ran up and gave her neck kisses and apologized.

If you think your spouse needs more loving touches today, give them, freely and often.

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Below will be a couple things from New Hope Marriage Ministry’s Monthly Newsletter. Why do I talk about this ministry? Simple. I’ve shared in other Marriage Mondays that my wife and I did not always have the best marriage. Sometimes I was being a dolt like above and sometimes, well, we just weren’t doing well.

Last September, we had been at New Hope about six months and really hadn’t gotten involved in Sunday School. We made excuses, like a lot of people. We decided to take the first Marriage class offered by the newly evolving Marriage Ministry at the time. The class was taught by Bill and Lisa Teichmiller and Mike and Jackie Walker. The thing that they stressed was that no marriage was perfect and that they had to work on theirs just like everyone else. When you watch these guys most of the time, they do it seemingly naturally.

But one Sunday, after several calm, cool and smooth classes, Mike and Jackie admitted how much they struggled putting the lesson for that day together. Honestly, I’d always thought Mike was the funnier of the group and that gave him a touch more credibility with me. Why? I like funny. But it was his sincerity that turned my attitude of the class around and got me to realistically focus on my marriage. I had seen frustration in my wife Mindy and I had always been able to joke through it.

By the time the class was over, I was being more honest with her and with the class of how I was struggling to be a good husband and dad. The class was one of the major reasons why I wanted to focus on marriage so much for others with One Man Revival. The great part is that all of them have been encouraging of this ministry.

In the early part of this year, Bill and Lisa began teaching a Marriage 911 class. My wife didn’t want to take the class for several reasons, foremost because she didn’t want everyone to think that we were struggling that badly. We were turning things around. I read the book anyway. I used an excerpt from Marriage Turnaround a few weeks back. The book is awesome and gives you real insight to better your marriage no matter where you are. So a little bit from the desk of New Hope’s marriage Ministry.

Marriage Prayer Event at Bliss Park in Effingham on June 18 at 6:30pm.

We know that marriage is more about making us holy than happy, so that is why the Marriage Ministry Team is putting together a prayer event at Bliss Park. We usually meet every third Thursday for our traditional Date night. But we have had so many requests to pray for people’s marriages we thought we would plan our event for June for anyone who would like to stand in the gap for a family member’s or friend’s marriage.

Marriages in our community need your support, so please mark your calendar and be prepared to be blessed by attending. We know it will bless your own marriage as well. We are challenging every married couple in our church to pray for another couple they know are struggling to have a great marriage. Prayer is powerful and your prayers for another marriage just might be the start of something wonderful in the lives of your family and friends.

Support For Marriages- “Focus of Marriage Ministry”

Do you need prayer for your husband, wife or friend’s marriage? Are you or someone you care about experiencing struggles and would value prayer or support?

So many marriages are experiencing troubles in the current days. Financial burdens, problems with children, abuse, infidelity, apathy and insecurity in the home are just a few of the vast number of issues afflicting married couples today.

Whether you are a Christian or non-believer, we are here to love and support you, and to pray you through the trials you might be facing. God loves marriage, and He loves you. It is his desire that you have a loving, whole, prosperous and blessed marriage.

If you are facing challenges today, we invite you to contact us at teich@mmtcnet.com. We treat every prayer request as completely confidential, and we will intercede for you and your marriage daily, because we know that God moves when we pray.

We wish to pray for you and assure you that God wants to work in your marriage, to change the circumstances that are causing you pain, and to bless each of us with personal wholeness and happy marriages. If you are not experiencing that wholeness, because of what seems to be the smallest of issues to the greatest, God wants to touch your marriage and touch your life.

Historically, June has always been the most popular month for weddings. That is where the term “June bride” comes from. The month of June derives its name from Juno, the roman Goddess of marriage. It was anciently thought that couples who married in June would be blessed with prosperity and happiness.

Finally the Mission Statement and Scripture Verse of the Marriage Ministry:

Mission Statement: Trustworthy people of faith that stand in the gap for struggling/crisis marriages by providing prayer, encouragement & hope along with resources to restore and renew marriages and families.

Scripture: 2 Thessalonians 3:5 : May the Lord direct your hearts into God’s love and Christ’s perseverance.


Thanks for taking time out to read today’s Marriage Monday!

I love you guys!
Frank

Friday, May 29, 2009

Prayerfully Minded Friday: Remember Global Day of Prayer May 31



Hey gang!

First, a short announcement. You are used to seeing Prayerfully Minded Fridays each Friday and today is not different. However, it will be the last of these. The reasons are many and I’ll toss a couple out here. First, when the ministry began, I never really realized how important prayer was going to be. To say I pray differently now than when I started One Man Revival would be an understatement.

The next biggest reason is that One Man Revival now has a fan page on Facebook. On this page, I can list a couple to many daily prayer thoughts. Why is this important? One, it’s a great reminder for me each morning of what is important. Secondly, it gives you a thought or two to pray for each day rather than just on Friday. In talking to a few of the people who help keep me accountable, it seems like a good idea because the flow is constant. If you need prayer or I hear about something that needs prayer, it’s much simpler to go to the fan page so that people can pray immediately. Sometimes, people don’t always go back to Friday’s blog to see what needs prayed for.

Finally, the Facebook fan page, I hate that term, but it is what they call it, is where most of you that are reading OMR are hanging out anyway. It gives me quicker contact to the majority of you. I’m grateful for people reading at all of the websites, but I encourage you to come join the Facebook page to be more a part of the community. I have put up discussion boards with a few thoughts including future topics.

So if Friday is the day that blesses you the most, please let me know and/or join the Facebook page. I can always email you prayer requests from my email (onemanrevival@yahoo.com) if you ask me. On to the topic for this last Prayerfully Minded Friday.

Earlier this month, America held a National Day of Prayer. On Sunday, the date is set for the Global Day of Prayer. If you go to the Global Day of Prayer’s website, you will see that they have been praying for different concepts or ideas since May 21. Forgive me, but I was a little slow to see this or I would’ve brought it up earlier. The website is http://www.gdopusa.com.

Today is Day 9 and the website talks about how they are praying to overcome by God delivering us from evil. Tomorrow is a day for glorification that this is God’s Kingdom. Finally, on Sunday, it will be prayer for the world to come together.

GOD TV will be broadcasting online starting Saturday night at 8:00pm EDT and airing all day on Sunday from Washington, DC and joining via satellite to Brazil, Hong Kong and somewhere in Africa’s Ivory Coast throughout the telecast.

You can also access where events will be held throughout the country here in America. The closest one to where I am in Effingham, IL is actually in Terre Haute, IN. For the large following in the Kissimmee, FL area to OMR, there is a church in St. Cloud also holding a Global Day of Prayer service.

If you want to join the festivities by phone, you can do that as well through a service called Greater Calling. I will warn you that it isn’t an 800 number and if you don’t have long distance, it could be pricey. You can dial 605-990-0031 and enter code 777# between 8:00pm EDT Saturday and 8:00 pm EDT Sunday. There will always be someone there to pray with you during those hours. If you want more information on that service, visit http://www.greatercalling.org.

If your church is holding a regular service on Sunday, do remember to pray for Global Day of Prayer during your prayer time.

Also, something additional for prayer next weekend, the VIVA Network is hosting a weekend of prayer for Children at Risk. It is an organization for taking care of children around the world and protecting them deprivation, exploitation, abuse and neglect. If you want more details, visit http://www.viva.org.

Thanks for praying for the masses!

I love you guys!
Frank

Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Wisdom Wednesday: Humility Steps Us to Wisdom



Hey gang!

For those that only know me through the pages of One Man Revival, I used to be a sportswriter back in the early through middle nineties and was a virtual sports encyclopedia to my friends. Sports were very important in my life back then. My television set or radio was almost always on a sports channel.

During my days in the newspaper business, I had my own weekly column called The Real Score. The name came out of a meeting with Shinnston News owner Kim Gemondo as I told him that I was tired of reading columnists that were kissing the figurative derrieres of the people they covered. Kim looks at me in all seriousness and blurts out the name. It became my moniker. People even began to call me Score or Real Score. I even have an email on AOL to this day with the name.

It became who I was. The Real Score was known for telling the truth. Sometimes that was really good. When I was talking and lauding the great athletes of that era in a positive way, they loved it. When I called people out for being boneheads and telling them they weren’t the best thing since the invention of white bread, I wasn’t always loved very much. But I didn’t care. I was The Real Score, the best darn writer that ever graced a newspaper. I actually believed that at the time.

I think when you take on names, you take the ego that goes with it. Your head grows because everyone reads what you do. We had a circulation of 5,000, and I believed everyone turned to The Real Score first. Sure, they read Harry Berman’s articles first. Harry had been around as long as Moses and was probably equal in intelligence. But after that, they turned to sports and The Real Score.

As the ego grew, so did my ability to offend. Even accidently, I offended a visiting club from Lewis County because I said that their 10-year old All Stars weren’t individually as good as the team from Bridgeport. They beat them as a team and boy did they let me know it. Trying to explain exactly what I meant really didn’t help.

You get the idea. Ali needed to step aside because I was the greatest. Months later, I left the position and within a few more months, most people even forgot that The Real Score existed. I still get a person now and then that mentions it and it makes me beam with pride that people actually still remember me from that time period.

I took almost 12 years away from a keyboard after that experience. Then I found MySpace in late 2006. I began writing about anything, and I do mean anything. I gained a following again for my humor, some of it near or over the line of good taste. After about two years of frustration in this writing, a friend sent me an email and told me that my writing was frustrating me because I knew it was not honoring to God. The friend was right.

Sometimes we really do need that slap in the face to tell us, “Hey, you’re not being true to yourself or to the God that created you!” It’s now been six months writing One Man Revival. It has become an honor to get up in the mornings and come to you with God’s Word surrounded with some of my thoughts on that Word. Last week, the ministry went over 100 subscribers on Networked Blogs. I didn’t have a blowout celebration on the webpage (even though privately I jumped up and down in my dining room). God has taught me to be thankful that people actually want to read what I write.

We haven’t won any awards or been placed in major competitions for the best blog in all Christendom, but the rewards will be someday. Hopefully as we walk into heaven, we see people that are part of the Kingdom. That’s my hope.

With that I bring you two wise words from Proverbs chapter 15.

Pro 15:31 Listen to good advice if you want to live well, an honored guest among wise men and women.
Pro 15:33 Fear-of-GOD is a school in skilled living-- first you learn humility, then you experience glory.

Thanks to the good advice of friends, I’m now living at a level of my life that I never thought possible. I’ve been reading a book from Stephen Arterburn and John Shore called Midlife Manual For Men, Finding Significance in the Second Half. It’s not a football book. I’ve been suffering from getting hung up over looking back at the earlier years of my life. While I have been successful, real wisdom and growth has come from getting older. I refuse to grow old. The book has really helped me take an inventory of how things are and it’s very nice to sit here and say that building this ministry is the calling on my life.

I may write sports on the One Man Revival site someday, but it would be a separate entity. God is my focus and my Saviour. It’s him I want to be glorified. I say it often because it’s true. The third and minor reason that I chose One Man Revival is that I am one man that gets to be part of the revival. I pray it grows. I appreciate that you follow my ministry, but it is Jesus and him alone that I want you to be true followers of.

I love you guys!
Frank

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

13 Lessons Learned From My Wild West Virginia Vacation



Hey gang!

Vacation is a good word. It’s a time when we are able (or should be able) to let go of our hard working schedules and kick back, relax and enjoy family and friends. Memorial Day weekend is usually the kickoff of summer and we were very lucky to get a beautiful weekend in our part of the country.

The surprising thing about vacations is that I do a lot of thinking. It’s a time when my mind is the clearest because distractions are at a minimum and especially when I drive, I find it helps take the edge off of highway hypnosis. When I think though, I find that I learn about myself in different ways. Sometimes good and sometimes, not so good. God just seems always ready to teach us something if we just take the time to listen.

So here are a few things that I learned on my vacation to West Virginia.

7:00 am Thursday morning: It is never good to sleep a vacation away. We were supposed to be in the car by six. Maggie, my baby girl, and I decided that six was too early. Not only does getting up late put you behind, it often adds stress to everyone. Why do we decide to plan a tight schedule for a vacation, a time that is to relax? We want to get all the fun in we can, right? Lesson one, throw intense schedules out the window.

12:00 noon Thursday: Lesson two, if you have someone behind your driver’s seat and they scream that they are not feeling good, pull over immediately. My daughter Megan was talking about a tummy ache and with me being concerned about time, thought nothing of it. Thankfully, we decided to pull off to get lunch. As we stood outside the vehicle, my little sweetie leaned over and heaved what was left of her milk onto the ground. Man, am I glad she waited. That looked gross.

12:01pm Thursday: Question, do Amish people have to walk in a straight line? This group of people saw my daughter throw up that milk and seconds later, they walked right through it. Lesson three: People are strange, no matter where you are.

4:00pm Thursday: Lesson four, children do not turn red in spots that are not in the sunshine. Silly me, I thought that Maggie was getting sunburn on her face since she sits next to the window. Wrong, upon diaper inspection, she was covered in a not so beautiful rash from the penicillin she was taking. She has the same allergy as dear old dad. Now she was itchy.

7:15pm Thursday night: Lesson five, never compare notes with a pharmacist, even if he is your friend about what other pharmacists are recommending for your child. I knew we needed Benadryl for Maggie’s itch and I decided to go to the pharmacy of a friend. I told him what I needed. He told me that she shouldn’t be taking the medication until she turns two. She has been taking said medication for almost five months for different needs. I told him that my local pharmacist said it was OK. He flipped. He mumbled something about reporting them to some board, but I stopped listening. I took the Benadryl and got outta Dodge.

10:45 pm Thursday night: This should be two lessons in one, but I think there is one real important lesson that takes precedent over the other. I probably shouldn’t have stayed on schedule and went out with my friend John. At this time, I had been out only an hour or so and my wife called his cell phone. She wanted to talk to me and I was driving. I elected to put it on speakerphone. Lesson six: Husbands, never, Never, NEVER do this when you have friends around. She starts screaming at me because one of my kids couldn’t go to sleep in a strange place without daddy. She added some flavorful language to the conversation that made John begin to laugh. I was in deep. Enough said.

9:30 am Friday morning: Lesson seven might have been the toughest lesson of the weekend. We went visiting graveyards with my mother and while visiting my aunt Agnes’ grave, I realized something. In the graves next to them were a woman I did not like and her sons. The woman really messed me over during my student teaching 18 years ago and I realized I hadn’t let go of it in all of this time. I said something about what I might do if no one were around and my wife immediately told me by that look of hers that I was not carrying a Christian attitude toward this woman in front of my kids. When my eldest asked what it meant by what I said, I knew she was right.
Forgiveness is something that Christ commands us to do. The best known example is during communion. If you have ought (differences) with a brother, you are to go to that brother before you take communion, if possible. That’s how serious Jesus felt about having a heart that had no forgiveness. To share in his body, forgiveness definitely has to be in your blood. This lesson was so hard on me for the rest of the day, that by Sunday, I had decided that I need to research and talk about forgiveness so that we can be better Christians, and that means me included. We’ll talk about that more in the coming week.

12:30 pm Friday afternoon: My family loves pizza. I mean, they REALLY love pizza. Next to hot dogs and shells & cheese, pizza is the best food available. So we decided to go to Cici’s Pizza. In Kissimmee, FL, a friend of mine owns two of these restaurants and they are top of the line, both in food production and in staff. They take the business personally believing scripture that tells them to do their work as unto the Lord. It just didn’t happen that way in West Virginia. To these people, it was a job, not something to be proud of, and boy did it show. The food was average at best and the staff only slightly better. There was one black fellow (he was the only one of that mellanin there, that’s why I mention it) who did take pride in his work. He was buzzing around everywhere trying to make people happy as he took their plates. He was a good man, Charlie Brown! Lesson eight: Never put your expectation of a business so high that if it isn’t top notch that you are massively disappointed.

7:45 pm Friday night: Lesson nine, when you are massively disappointed in your vacation and the people that are with you, take a step back somewhere quiet. Friday was frustrating for many reasons, but I got really bent out of shape because I’d had enough disappointment. I told my family that I was going to the pool to relax. When I got there, there were two teenage girls, probably no older than 15 on one end. I went to the other end and stood there against the wall, closed my eyes and took in some quiet time. It turned my weekend around. Taking time to talk to God and share how bad it seemed made it better. It wasn’t so awful. I prayed for a better time.

3:40 pm Saturday afternoon: A little fact that doctors tell us is that if we spend too much time in the sun, it might not be good for us. My wife did take precautions for our children to give them sunscreen, that’s the good little cancer-preventing radiation therapist that she is. However, something that we didn’t do was watch what type of drinks we gave our kids. They had nice sugary fruit juices and not enough straight water during the day out at the park. What this led to is three not so friendly cases of diarrhea. Lesson ten: Water is the best drink in the heat of the day. Lesson 11 is to never sing the diarrhea song at the top of your lungs when three exhausted children are trying to sleep in the back seat of your SUV. No matter how funny you think the song is.

5:00 am Sunday morning: My wife woke up hysterically after one of our kids had another toilet trot episode a few minutes earlier without doing the trotting part in the bed next to her. She was pissed and not wanting to think rationally. She did all the right mothering things when it came to the child, however what she was not compensating for was a husband that had only been asleep for less than four hours because he was out with friends and had come home to a son that did not wish to sleep and wanted to hang out with dad for some one-on-one time. Lesson 12, allow a sleeping husband to stay where he is until he is thinking rationally. It affected the rest of the drive home. Not in an angry way, but in the lack of sleep way. During the 80’s, some company made these tacky little flamingoes that would nose dive toward this little thing of water that I think was magnetized in some way. They were plastic and dreadfully ugly. Of course, my mother loved them. Well, several times during the drive home, I was doing my best imitation. Each time I did, my wife would drive for an hour or so to let me rest. But it wasn’t enough. I was exhausted.

5:00pm Sunday night: We finally made it home. I was wiped and ready for a nap. We had dinner first. After that, I had new energy and could not go to sleep. Lucky lesson 13: Never eat when you want to sleep. I couldn’t lay down for hours and by that point, I was a pretty cranky fella. Thank God that when I hit the bed at almost 11:00pm, I went right to sleep.

We survived the weekend. My wife and I have sworn that we are not taking a family vacation until our children are in their teens, but that will probably last for about six months, enough time to say, man, do I ever need a vacation!

I love you guys!
Frank

Monday, May 25, 2009

Marriage Mondays: Sex Before Six or Any Old Time + an Announcement



Hey gang!

It’s a Memorial Day holiday and time for another Marriage Mondays. Today, I want to share a story and see what you guys can add.

As you faithful readers know, my family and I took the weekend and went home to West Virginia for me to see friends for the first time in five years. We had a great Saturday in the park and an equally fun Saturday night with some other friends at a local hangout.

A few of my friends have been reading and realized that I have been giving practical and encouraging insight on how to build better marriages and better worlds. One of my friends was particularly happy to see me because of my ability to be able to write. He gave me a proposition. He wanted me to help him write a book for married couples that would make the world a better place.

I suppose I have to give you the name of the book before the premise because the title sets it up. The book is to be called Sex Before Six. My friend added that we’re not talking about before six years old, before six in the morning, as if I actually thought that six years old getting it on might be a good idea. The premise is this. If we could show all the good things that come out of morning sex that make the world a better place, it could be a best seller. Let me give you an example or two.

First, let’s think about all the medical improvements. Blood pressures would lower because sex has shown in other studies that it lowers blood pressure. The same for insulin levels of diabetics. Proving that morning sex is good health makes for happier couples because they’ll live longer.

Second, think of all the stress relief. No one that had morning sex would be in a bad mood afterwards. Morning sex is as good at getting people to relax as marijuana and it’s not illegal.

Finally, couples that have good morning sex never stay mad at each other. I might have to hire out the Barna Group to prove all theories.

OK, let’s get serious. How many friends have told you over the years that sex answers all the troubles of marriage, Christian and non-Christian? Our church is doing a two-part series on sex the way God intended, between married couples. However, I would find it awfully hard to hear that good morning sex makes all marriages complete.

Any of us that have been married for a length of time know that no matter how good God ordained sex is, it is not the end all. Sex is the part that brings intimacy to the next level. It is not the answer. Now, I’ll give you the verses chosen for today. I thought they related best from The Message. Let’s look at God’s Word in 1 Corinthians chapter six.

1Co 6:12 Just because something is technically legal doesn't mean that it's spiritually appropriate. If I went around doing whatever I thought I could get by with, I'd be a slave to my whims.
1Co 6:13 You know the old saying, "First you eat to live, and then you live to eat"? Well, it may be true that the body is only a temporary thing, but that's no excuse for stuffing your body with food, or indulging it with sex. Since the Master honors you with a body, honor him with your body!
1Co 6:14 God honored the Master's body by raising it from the grave. He'll treat yours with the same resurrection power.
1Co 6:15 Until that time, remember that your bodies are created with the same dignity as the Master's body. You wouldn't take the Master's body off to a whorehouse, would you? I should hope not.
1Co 6:16 There's more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, "The two become one."
1Co 6:17 Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever--the kind of sex that can never "become one."
1Co 6:18 There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for "becoming one" with another.
1Co 6:19 Or didn't you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don't you see that you can't live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you.
1Co 6:20 God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.

I took verses 12-15 to show you that there was more to this conversation from Paul. In this chapter, Paul is talking about how the Corinthians are suing each other and how that disgraces God. I’ll start in verse 16.

Verse 16 tells us some very important things. Sex is more than the act. I could be having physical sex 24 hours a day, however sex is to be more than that. He even says that there is a spiritual bonding of the two persons involved in the act. He even drives the point home to Christians that we’re trying to become one with God and that the sex we have is to help the two become one.

Verse 18 talks about how sexual sins vary from others. Sexual sins violate us. Even though you may not think so, when you are not having that time with your marriage partner, you are not modeling God’s intimacy intended for the two of you.

Paul even talks about times to take breaks from sex in the same book of Corinthians in the next chapter in verse five. It should be agreed upon and only for prayer and fasting, then to come back together again. So God doesn’t want you to take long periods of time between having that bonding together as a married couple. I see you ladies shaking your heads at me asking, “Frank, if I asked my husband how often he wanted sex it would be more often. There’s stuff to do. How do we make time?”

I’ve asked that question myself, many, many times. When you have kids, try to make an honorable living and be pleasing to your spouse and to God, that’s a full day. I couldn’t agree more. But there is something that God understood with these verses above that tell us the spiritual bond is not being kept with a lack of sex. To say that I have more of an answer than God is showing us that we need sex for more of a bond between man and wife, I have none. The next question you have is “Well, might that lead to more kids?”

Possibly, but I always say that God has a plan of how many we can handle. God hands teachers children to teach at schools. Notice school doesn’t last more than seven or eight hours because teachers, as good as they are, probably couldn’t take them any longer. School districts even limit how many they can have in a class. Sure, most of them get a little lenient, but realize that God knows our limits much better than a school board and he will not put on us more than we can handle.

I think verse 20 explains it best. God owns the whole works. Laugh if you must, but it’s true. The last part of that verse does not imply letting people see your sex either. The only reason I mention this is because someone tried to argue with me that it does mean that. Paul is trying to tell us to let people see God in what you do and how you treat others, closing up the issue of suing people.
Finally, I’ll ask for your participation. What I’d really like to hear about is this: What are some of the things that you’ve been given advice on that might have sounded strange or just were that have actually worked for you or something totally off the wall that you know was not voiced in the way God intended.

To end this piece, I do also have a couple of announcements for the webpage. First and foremost, One Man Revival Ministries has opened a fan page on Facebook. It has discussion boards, access to each blog and info on things that are going on. Also, the other part of the announcement is with this page, I am posting daily prayer requests for you to ponder.

With that, we are ending Prayerfully Minded Fridays. Prayer has become a vital part of our ministry that needs more attention than once a week. Doing the prayer requests on the Facebook fan page serves two purposes. One, you’ll know exactly where to look for the prayer requests. They will be on the main wall page each morning sometime between 7:30-9:00 am CDT. Secondly, it will be a polite reminder to all of us (including myself) that there is a need to pray. All of us need to pray and pray more often.

We are also taking suggestions on the Facebook fan page for new ideas for the overall website production and topics that may enrich all that are reading the blogs. I hope these changes are helpful to you and if these things are needed in the other communities that we reach that you can give me ideas on how to do that.

As always, thanks for reading One Man Revival and for your support of what I do each day here at the website.

I love you guys!
Frank

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Wisdom Wednesday: Love continues at 40



Prologue: Just a video of one of my favorite songs lately, Remedy Drive’s All Along.

Hey gang!

Time for another Wisdom Wednesday. I just have one verse from Proverbs today. It’s Proverbs 22:1, “A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.”

It was 40 years ago today…

That a Saviour was born…sorry Jesus, the boy’s a little crazy, too many surgeries to the head.

A rapper came from the East one day…stop it, that’s Ice-T. Yes, Rhyme Pays.

At 3:20 p.m., a bouncing baby boy was born. He came with issues, as all of us do. He was born with a clef pallet that would need surgery five times in the first four years of life. He was graced not to have the hair lip that usually goes with it. All that was left after those surgeries was a little hole that remains today. It’s the number one reason that he doesn’t peanuts. Because of that hole, there is a little vibration that causes a laugh at the end of his words if he doesn’t shut his mouth quick enough. It’s especially obvious during nervous moments. Other than that, he was born with one kidney, although he didn’t know that until last year.

Yep, that was me. When God says that we are individually and wonderfully made, he wasn’t kidding. When I was a kid, I got all hung up on how he messed up. The kid has a hole in the roof of his mouth and he talks a little funny. But as I grew, especially after I got saved, those feelings began to go away. Sure, I wish he’d put a padlock on my mouth sometimes so I wouldn’t eat the ever famous See-Food Diet and that would help the tummy flatten a little bit. But that’s the vanity part of me talking. Yes ladies, even guys are vain too sometimes.

There are two parts that God didn’t shortchange me on and I thank him ever so much for that. He gave me a mind to clearly think (most of the time) through life and make good decisions (again, most of the time). In that mind, he gave me a hunger to learn all about everything. While I wasn’t a Christian, I learned some stuff that wasn’t so good, but God has helped me work through that, just like he does with everyone else that asks him. But over the past year, he has reignited a hunger to learn about what he wants me to do with the second half of my life.

I think middle age is how you look at it. Most guys, and some of the ladies too, go through this insane time where we think we have to get young again and still show the world that we can go with the big dogs. Most of the time that makes us look silly. Silly and old. I know I’ve looked back and thought about my seeming goal of life to make a difference. My friend Chuck Herrin asked the question that was on my mind a week ago at our church’s ministry meeting, “Sometimes I wonder if I make a difference.” He answered the question too with a few cool stories and showed that yes, he had. But I do wonder sometimes.

In those stories, the funny ones from the teens he worked with were what made me laugh. But he showed me something else. In telling these stories, we come to realize that if people pick up these funny little things we do, they also probably pick up the serious stuff that we try to share with them too.

In 2002, I had just met Mindy, my soon to be wife, and I needed to get healthy. My friend Aaron McNeil was looking for someone to play tennis with. Let me tell you that I love to play, but I play tennis like I play golf, badly. But we went and had a great time. We talked about life as we played tennis. A few weeks later, I went to lunch with Aaron’s dad. I shared my story and told Pastor McNeil that my biggest feeling was that I felt like I needed to make up time for all those years I wasn’t a Christian and not making a difference. He starts laughing. I wasn’t getting the joke. He says to me, “Do you really worry that you’re not making a difference? Let me tell you something. You make a difference. I could line parents up to tell you the difference you make and I would be at the head. Sure, you’re not perfect, but you are developing Aaron as you spend time with him. The same with everyone else. You have a heart toward people. You love them so much that you can’t get enough of them. Your heart is proof that you have no time to make up as long as you keep giving of yourself.”

That’s the other thing that God didn’t shortchange me on. I do love people, sometimes to a fault. It causes me to see the good, sometimes blinding myself to the bad. It causes me to take risks I sometimes shouldn’t do. The thing that I never see is that God knew how it was going to work out. I still ask that question today some. “God, what are you doing? I feel like a fool out here.” He always reminds me to trust him and lead with love.

First Corinthians 13 talks about how love is supposed to be. Starting in verse 4, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

I look at that seriously and think that even with a good heart, how often I fail at loving the way Jesus does. Believe me, I’ve failed at every word at one time or another. But I am so glad that God doesn’t just say that I am finished because I fail. That’s why he gave me the handbook. That’s why he tells me to read it, daily. I fail at that too sometimes. That’s why he tells me to give my best to live it. Even if I’m shortchanging him and still giving my all, he has enough change to more than cover my faults, physical, mental, emotional, or even imagined.

So as I begin what experts say is the second half of life today, God tells me not to worry. Just love. I’ll take care of the rest.

_______

A few notes of interest not related to the above. First, One Man Revival Ministries has a fan page on Facebook. If you’re interested in joining, head over there. I may start a discussion now and again on topics I’m thinking about and you can too. You can always keep up with the world that I am working in. One of the things that I would like to grow is other projects. When One Man Revival started, it was an idea just to do the daily encouragement blogs. But I also would love to get in on other writing projects and do speaking engagements to talk about this Jesus I love so much. Over the next little bit of time after my four days in West Virginia, starting tomorrow, I’ll be working on building that up. Any suggestions on how to make that page or any of the community pages I have up (Facebook, Blogger, MySpace, Shoutlife and Livejournal) look better and be more functional to you the readers, please give insight. You can do that on the pages or send me an email at onemanrevival@yahoo.com.

Finally, the aforementioned trip to West Virginia to celebrate my 40 years of life so far with some of my friends over there does start tomorrow. I understand that my hotel does have internet access, but if I am unable to connect, realize that I may not post again until Memorial Day. If I can, you’ll still get your dose of Prayerfully Minded Friday and thoughts and pictures from my Mountain State experience.

I love you guys, hopefully for the next 40 years too!
Frank

Monday, May 18, 2009

Marriage Monday-Love Those Ladies, Respect Those Men



Eph 5:21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Eph 5:22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.
Eph 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
Eph 5:24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
Eph 5:26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,
Eph 5:27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
Eph 5:28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
Eph 5:29 After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church—
Eph 5:30 for we are members of his body.
Eph 5:31 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."
Eph 5:32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.
Eph 5:33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Hey gang!

It’s Monday and time for more encouragement for marriages. One of the great compliments of the weekend from a reader was that he felt that some of the website’s best blogs were when scripture was the centerpiece not the entrĂ©e. I love how that was said. I am by nature a storyteller, but I also find how much I like when I create the stories around the scripture I am using rather than vice versa. So it is something I totally agree on. Several of you felt the same way, so I will strive to make it so in the future.

Today’s selection is from Ephesians and one of my favorite sets of scripture is taken out of context so often that it actually gets offensive, especially to women. I’ve heard pastors, as well as groups of men, usually older for some reason, like the idea of stopping at verse 24. Because to that point, it appears to sound like submit, realize that men make the decisions and give over everything because he’s the man.

But stopping there really takes the heart out of what that scripture is saying. Verse 25 alone tells us to love our wives just as Christ loved the church. Do you really think that Jesus walked around changing lives of women in so many other New Testament scriptures that he would allow Paul to just say, “Yeah ladies, shut up and serve.” Not a chance.

Verses 26-27 talks about how God wants us presented to him as a church. Paul describes the church in unit form in these verses so that we understand verse 28 is how the couple is a unit. A man is to love his wife as himself. I don’t know about you, but I like to treat myself pretty well. So if I treat my wife any less than I treat myself, it is sin, period. That’s pretty convicting, especially when I go spend money on anything and then begin to worry every time my wife walks out the door with a credit card in hand.

Verse 31 is also a fun verse. How many couples today live with family members because they want support? You know, the couple lives with mom and dad so that they have child care, an extra car and better groceries. I may get in trouble for saying this, but I would urge you parents to tell your kids to “Get out!” Once they are married, they are no longer your responsibility. Now it would be totally two-faced of me to say that family never helps you out, but sometimes the reason there is so much strife is because the parents are raising two generations, the couple and the grandkids. That shouldn’t happen.

In verse 32, Paul makes the connection again saying that it’s a profound mystery. What he’s meaning isn’t that he finds it amazing that Christ loves the church, but that the mystery is that men are to love their wives and women are to respect their husbands, in spite of what is going on in the world. So men, love those women as much as you love you. Ladies, give those men a little bit of what Aretha was asking for, R-E-S-P-E-C-T!

I love you guys!
Frank

PS-The video for today is Mindy and my first song that we danced to at our wedding in 2002.

Sunday, May 17, 2009

Dear Atheist, I am a Christian With No Apologies



Preface: This is not the original artist, but a nice guy named Tim off of YouTube. You’ll enjoy this version of Ray Boltz’ classic hit.

Hey gang!

This weekend has been great. Satan has been attacking, but some of you have been kind enough to send me thoughts that will help the page only get better. I thank you guys for that.

However, I did get one letter that concerned me. I share it with you not to embarrass anyone, but to talk about a real issue that a lot of you face, people not wanting to hear the message of Christ or anything you have to say about it. I’ll briefly answer a couple of her other concerns, then I’ll get on to the issue of atheism and how to talk to anyone that may not share a Christian worldview.


Subject: I'm sorry

I'm going to have to delete you from my friends list. Im not sure why you added me, because all though I knew you back in the day, we didnt travel the same social circles and since you added me, you haven even said hello, so Im not sure if it is just a friend collection thing you are doing on facebook...
but the reason I am deleting you is Im growing tired of seeing your religious views and blog updates showing on my page.
That may sound mean or condescending and trust me it is not meant too... I just am tired of being pummeled to death with christian views. I dont smack people in the face with athiesm and I deserve the same respect.



Dear _____:
I truly am sorry that you feel you have to delete me from our friendship here on Facebook. The reason I added you was that you and I went to high school together and while it’s true that we didn’t run in the same circle at the time, we shared several friends.

You hit a very important thing when you say that I didn’t say hello. It is a failing that I have had with the internet. I should thank every person that takes time out to even look at what I am doing. As far as collecting friends, that makes it sound like a video game and let me tell you that this is no game. Honestly, I believed that what I said in my blogs in the love of friendship was much more important than a little random hello. I’m sorry that it offended you.

When I add friends on Facebook, or any other community for that matter, I have no idea where some people stand. The only thing that I know for sure is where I stand. I am a Christian, unashamedly so. I agree that you deserve the same respect. I can say that I didn’t know much about atheism and really wish you had taken the time to talk to me about that view before we reached this spot. The last thing I want to do is offend, you or anyone else.

However, I hope that you don’t cut me off before you read the rest of this. I want to truly understand what exactly you believe, so if I am off in any way, please correct me.

Webster’s Dictionary has two definitions for atheism. The first is simply ungodliness or wickedness. The second definition is a disbelief in doctrine or that there is no deity. I believe what our conversation is more about is the second definition and not the first. What this definition tells me is that you believe there is no God or no doctrine controlling what we do while we’re here. I would assume that you do believe in the law. What I mean by this is local and federal laws.

The first thing this leads me to is a couple questions.

First, do you believe that this is the only life we have? That when we die, it’s over. No breathing, no ghosts, nothing? As a Christian, I’ll be honest. I would really struggle with that. After reading The Bible, I just can’t accept that this life is all there is. I believe in a Heaven, which also means that I believe in Hell.

That’s one of the many reasons I started One Man Revival. Let me tell you a story. When I was 18 years old, I had a friend named Steve. You might have known him, maybe not. He died in a drowning accident at Oral Lake in 1987. I wasn’t a Christian when he died, but that night he had come to me asking if we could go out. I had other plans. So did eight other friends of mine. He went out with three friends, but ended up hanging out with other people I never met. That night, they drank and decided to go out on the water and he died because the boat tipped over.

Six years later, I came to Christ. Something I’ve often wondered about in the 15 years since is where is my friend Steve. I pray that he’s in Heaven and I will see him again. I hope against hope that he isn’t in Hell. Sure, it would make my mind rest easier to think that there is no afterlife and therefore no Hell. I think you understand why. But it would also make my life and countless others a sham. That I can’t and will not accept. Life has to mean something and there has to be a destination after this life. I simply don’t accept that there is no one leading the way.

Genesis 1:1 tells us that, “In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.” With your belief that there is no God, I ask you my next question, who or what formed everything. The potential answer I may hear is that it was a Big Bang. I simply don’t believe we are here by chance. We were made by a Creator. Genesis 1:26 explains this best, ‘Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the seas and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.”

I’ll share two final stories as to why I write the way I do. Chapter 4 of the book of Acts talks about Peter and John being arrested for healing people in Jerusalem. The rulers asked Peter in who’s name do they speak these truths and heal. In verse 10, they explain that “it is the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, whom you crucified but whom God raised from the dead, that this man stands before you healed. He (Jesus) is the stone you builders rejected, which has become the cornerstone.” Verse 12 goes on: “Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to men by which we must be saved.”

After debating what Peter and John did wrong, they realized they had nothing to hold them on. So in verse 18, the leaders tell them not to speak or teach in his name again. Peter’s response in verses 19-20 says it all, “Judge for yourselves whether it is right in God’s sight to obey you rather than God. For we cannot help speaking about what we have seen and heard.”

The final story is my own. In December 1992, I almost died in a diabetic coma. As I laid in that state, I didn’t get an “It’s a Wonderful Life” moment. All I saw was total darkness. Now you may debate with me that you might be correct in your no afterlife end then. But the rest of the story has changed me. It took me 16 months to accept that Christ was not only real, but real enough to save me from a burning lake of fire.

You may argue that I’m no one special. I am a stay at home dad that takes care of three children with nothing to do but cause trouble by shoving my beliefs down people’s throats. But I’ll share a couple verses that tell me different. Psalm 139:13-16 are the words of David, but they are also verses I cling to in my life because when no one, and I mean no one, would give this fat man the time of day, God did. “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.”

So, I do not apologize over my love of a God that has saved me from Hell by loving me more than all the friends I could ever form on Facebook. The Great Commission is my order to share that love with everyone. I haven’t known you for a long time, but I do hope that you are able to forgive. I won’t ask that you read anymore of my blogs, or any at all since you’ve told me that you haven’t even bothered, but know that I have done all that I can to share that love with you. As KJ-52 says in one of his songs, I Won’t Ever Stop, for you, or anyone else. I will continue to pray for your eyes to be opened to see that God is real. You may laugh or scoff at that, but I will do that anyway. I hope that if you do choose to cease our little friendship on Facebook that you have a wonderful life.

Your friend in Christ,
Frank

So, I have shared my thoughts and what I have said to her. If you’d like to share other words in the comments, please do. If you are struggling with a decision to accept Christ as your Saviour, please feel free to email me at onemanrevival@yahoo.com. I promise that I will return an email with encouragement on your path.

I love you guys!
Frank

Candy Wood Lindley talks with us about Face of Faith, her book




Hey gang!

This has been a busy weekend and I wanted to be sure to let you know about another book that you should try to read, especially if you or someone you love has dealt with cancer. I’ve been personally touched by cancer with my grandmother (stomach cancer, 2004) and grandfather (lung cancer w/ heart disease, 1977) both dying with cancer. My wife also works in a cancer center and sees patients every day as a radiation therapist. I don’t know the exact percentages, but I can tell you that a lot of patients die from it. As a lover of people, it’s difficult sometimes for my wife, especially once she’s had time to know them. I think it’s that way no matter what in the medical field. But dealing with cancer, is even tougher.

Candy Wood Lindley is a survivor from brain cancer and has told her story in Face of Faith. I could go on about my personal opinion on cancer, but I think that I’d rather let you read Candy’s interview and let her tell you more about this incredible book.

Candy, you have written Face of Faith. What is it about?

When I was thirty years old, I was hospitalized for the removal of a pea-sized cyst in the nasal cavity. Instead, I was diagnosed with an inoperable malignant tumor the size of a baseball situated underneath the brain in the center of the head in an inoperable area of the head. Grade-three bone cancer is not receptive to chemotherapy or radiation. They told me that I could lose the right side of my face.

I had always thought that I was a Christian, but I had never really surrendered my life to the Lordship of Jesus Christ. In the hospital room that night I was finally at the end of Candy - emotionally, mentally, and physically. I ask God to totally take over my life.

My circumstances didn’t change, but God began to change my heart to one seeking His will only for my life whatever that might be.

Two weeks later I met with a craniofacial surgeon at the Mayo Clinic. He was very upfront about my surgery and my prognosis. No sugar coating.

He explained that he would cut across the top of the head and down the middle of the face enabling him to peel back both sides of the face and remove the greater portion of my face including the forehead bone, the right cheekbone, and the nose. He could hopefully remove the bulk of the tumor, buying me some time. He would not replace the bones to the face. I would wake up severely deformed and blind in the right eye, probably the left.

Miraculously, he instead attempted to remove the tumor in its entirety, and it worked. Even more miraculously, he took the bones to the face that had been thrown in the trash and reconstructed my face. I had a new face. And was cancer free.


What goes through someone’s mind when they are told they have an inoperable tumor in the center of the head and could lose the right side of their face? You were thirty years old. That’s pretty overwhelming.

For me, the will to live took over. That stubborn will to fight no matter what the odds.

There were complications after that first surgery. What did that involve?

Seven months after the first surgery, infection spread throughout the forehead bone and forehead skin. I was put in isolation. Five weeks later and four more surgeries, I returned home weighing 79 pounds with a shaved head, sunken in forehead, and two skin graphs on the front and back of the head.

Two years later on a routine check up trip to the Mayo Clinic, the tumor recurred. Same place. This time the size of a raspberry. So they did the whole first surgery again

During those three years of nine surgeries and frequent trips to the Mayo Clinic, did you ever ask God “Why me?” Were you ever angry with God?

I never asked God “Why me?” I did ask what was going on? I didn’t understand. I asked why He was allowing so much in my life, but not so much why it was happening to ME. Yes, I was angry with God often. Thankfully someone informed me that God could handle my anger.

How do you address the importance that society has put on beauty?

There is nothing wrong with wanting to look the best that you can look. I personally have always enjoyed experimenting with makeup and getting professional makeovers, especially now that I am facially disfigured. I want to make the most of what I have. But at the end of the day for me, the make up comes off and the hairpieces come off. If my confidence depended on beauty, I could be devastated. And many facially disfigured people are.

In a world obsessed with perfection of the outer appearance and makeovers of every kind, God is more interested in a different kind of makeover – one that lasts – a makeover of the heart.

That’s what happened with me. He began a makeover of my heart. And He’s still working on me!!

How did your husband handle the stress of your illness and the new Candy?

Unfortunately ours was not a happy marriage before I was ever sick. It was an emotionally abusive household. After twenty-four years of marriage, Lee filed for divorce.

Candy, you have experienced emotional pain and physical pain. Which is more difficult?

Physical pain is difficult– especially chronic pain. It is wearing and can affect a person emotionally as well. But there are medications for pain.

But the emotional pain of abuse is sometimes more difficult, I think. You can’t take a pill for it. It requires a lot of time and counseling. Only the Lord can heal the broken heart and enable us to forgive.

Where can we find out more about you and this book?

Please visit my web site at faceoffaithbook.com. Thank you for letting me visit with your readers today!

Thanks to you for taking time to read.

I love you guys!
Frank

Friday, May 15, 2009

Prayerfully Minded Fridays: Hang in and be strong



Hey gang!

Have you ever had one of those weeks where Satan is coming at you full blast because he knows you are making a difference and he wants to stop that from continuing. That’s been my week. Some of it has been seemingly innocent. Some of it hasn’t.

Ephesians 6:12 tells us outright that, “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” People think that it is others or other events that cause a tough day, but it is Satan acting in these things and people to make it so.

A DJ friend came on the air one day talking about how the toothbrush snapped off in his mouth. It ruined his day. But he did his show like nothing bothered him. He explained to me later in an interview that I did with him that radio personalities are expected to come on like the sun is high in the sky and it’s a beautiful regardless of what happens. It is truly similar the expectations of Christians in the face of trials to non-believers, but even moreso sometimes to believers. Why is this?

I think a lot of it has to do with people believing that Christians should be rock hard when it comes to bad times or even an expectation that nothing bad should happen to Christians. We’re supposed to shrug it off like a boxer does when hit by Mike Tyson. Unfortunately, hits from Mike Tyson aren’t that easy to shake off.

Even the story of Job has the men that sit with him asking what he did to gain God’s wrath, as if he had to have sinned to be beaten down. Solomon tells us that in Ecclesiastes 9:2 that, “All things come alike to all: there is one event to the righteous, and to the wicked; to the good and to the clean, and to the unclean; to him that sacrificeth, and to him that sacrificeth not: as is the good, so is the sinner; and he that sweareth, as he that feareth an oath.” So if there is no difference when it comes to how things happen to the saved and unsaved here on Earth, why are people so ready to point the finger?

So how do we stand against things that will come against us no matter how good we are? The answer is prayer. Here are a few verses to look at.

But verily God hath heard me; he hath attended to the voice of my prayer. Blessed be God, which hath not turned away my prayer, nor his mercy from me.
He was merciful to David as he prayed. Psalm 66:19-20

The sacrifice of the wicked is an abomination to the LORD: but the prayer of the upright is his delight.
Proverbs 15:8

And the prayer of faith shall save the sick, and the Lord shall raise him up; and if he have committed sins, they shall be forgiven him. Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.
James explains how effective prayer is in James 5:15-16

And finally, this nugget of truth is found at Phillipians 4:6, “Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.”

So know that the difference is prayer and that God takes action on that prayer. You may still suffer, but you won’t suffer alone.

Here are a few things I am praying for this week.

Traveling mercies next week for my family and my mom. Mom is coming up from Florida to meet us in West Virginia to celebrate my 40th birthday.

Pray that we will be a beacon to people as we travel and as we are visiting family and friends. I do want to be the same person amongst the people who knew me and the people who know me now.

Pray for continued success for our church. During my little mini-vacation, the church begins a series on Sexual Revolution. This is to explain how sex is seen by God. It’s a two-parter and I pray for wisdom for not only Van and Tyler as they speak, but the hearers as they listen.

Pray for people who are struggling with unemployment or underemployment. May every person find the work that God intends them to do. It’s not about a J-O-B, it’s about finding enjoyment while you work.

Pray for students that are going to start enjoying their summer. Pray for their safety and that they do more than sit around. May then stretch their minds as much as their bodies.

Finally, pray for a friend of the ministry. If you’ve heard the story of Clay Crosse and his wife Renee, you know how phenomenal a couple they are in ministry together. Clay has been sick this week and struggling with his voice. Pray that he recovers quickly and that God shares with him the desires of his heart.

As always, I do love you guys. If you need prayer for anything, please list it below in the comments or if you’d like to not have as many people know what you’re praying for, send me an email at onemanrevival@yahoo.com. I keep your emails private and only share them with my accountability partners to pray for your needs.

Frank

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Wisdom Wednesday: Never Fear the Truth



Hey gang!

Occasionally, I get to have fun and compelling conversations. Last night, I met my new neighbor and it just might be the beginning of a beautiful friendship. Amazingly, while our kids played together in our back yards, we just began talking about church and scripture. We discussed grace and works and how they are supposed to work in the life of a Christian and then we got to a great topic that I love, truth.

Both of us have talked about previous frustrations with the church because a lot of people that are sitting nice and comfortable in their pews have a little problem. They love the seats so much that all they want to do is sit there and take in good news. You know, the pastor tells us that Jesus loves us, we’re forgiven, our lives are great and that we are all already on the gospel ship headed for heaven. Everyone loves that.

However, that is where a lot of churches end. If you’ve ever seen the movie A Few Good Men, you know that famous Jack Nicholson line: “You can’t handle the truth!” Ever been in a church where the pastor steps on your toes, figuratively, not physically. He gives you something from God’s Word and it hits your life because it’s something that’s not quite right in your living. You leave and go sit at the lunch table with friends and say “That pastor offended me. I’m living a good life. He’s picking on me. WAHHHHHH!” OK, maybe you don’t do the WAHHHHHH part, but you get the idea. You go home and stomp around about it some more. You start throwing things (I don’t recommend this, especially breakable stuff) and you feel better. Then you decide that you’re never going to that church again. Then you go to another church and the same thing happens. Pretty soon, you run out of churches to go to (if that’s possible). Then you quit going to church.

That’s why I try to give it to you straight here. Here’s the reason. I have a responsibility, given to me by God. I chose to teach you something here on the website to help you get closer to God. You may not get closer to me. You may get mad. You may tell your friends that I don’t know what I’m talking about. You’ll stomp around like before. But I want you to do one of three things. First, think about it. Really think about it. Secondly, pray about it. God may be able to add something to what I said. Finally, if you’ve talked to God about it and still think I’m crazy, send me an email. I get these all the time. I won’t even get mad. I will reply and send you a note telling you what I think of what you said. I may give you supporting scripture or I might even agree with you. I know, you’re going, “Wh-, wh-, what?” Occasionally, I’ll give you credit for thinking about it and tell you that I can see your side of things.

If you feel the need to email me, do it anytime to onemanrevival@yahoo.com. You can let me have it, but you can also encourage me or just say hey. You can also tell me more about what you think of the total ministry or even make suggestions. Why do I open that up and why do I take time to give that info to you every once in a while? Well, I look at it this way. If you’ve taken time to come and visit my ministry and take even more time to think about it, then I absolutely wholeheartedly need to think about your comments.

Back to what we were talking about. Sometimes, it isn’t that people are afraid of the Word, it’s that pastors and teachers are afraid of saying it. Why would this happen? As I told you earlier, I realize the responsibility that I have from God to tell you the truth. Some of these people in the front of congregations are ordained and have an even higher calling of God to give you God’s truth. Here are a few of the reasons that it happens.

1. The pastors/teachers are afraid to offend the congregation. See, as the congregation, we have two ways of true response when we’re offended. First case, we leave. We decide that we can’t take the beating and we go elsewhere. Worst case, we stop giving. We take the “I’ll stick it to the man of God by hitting him where he hurts, in his wallet.” Or in the wallet of the church. You may find this hard to believe, but some churches actually worry about where the money is, or isn’t, coming from. Pastors /teachers that have to worry about this, for a variety of reasons that I won’t get into, curtail the hard messages and give you what you wanna hear because the coffers get fuller when they do. It’s a shame when this happens, but a preacha gotta eat too.

2. Pastors/teachers lose faith in the message. Why have I done a few topics on encouraging your church leaders? Because I know that they get beaten down too. Probably 99% of what a leader hears are the negatives. You know, my marriage is in trouble, my kid is a heathen, my wife nags me too much, my boss is a jerk, staff member x isn’t doing his/her job, etc., etc. All they hear is how horrible lives of believers are. After a while, they start thinking, “Am I really reaching these people?” They are, but the people who are doing what God has given them don’t say a whole lot, unless they are encouraged to do so.

3. Pastors/teachers feel like they have to teach their own agenda. I’m not always saying this is a bad thing. Let me explain. Some pastors get their messages from God (Did he just say that? Yes, I did.). They set a schedule based on what God is giving them. In their minds, these messages are set in stone. Not light rock, the heavy stuff. Say something happens, either God gives them another message or something in the world happens that needs immediate attention. Events like 9/11, Columbine, and Hurricane Katrina come to mind. Unfortunately, I can’t think of any good opposites at the moment, but something that needs NOW attention. Some couldn’t just slide their messages a week. Nope, what God gave me is too important.

Then there are some that set up an agenda. You know, I’m gonna preach giving on the first Sunday of every month because that’s when the senior citizens get paid or the fifteenth because of state employees getting paid. I’m gonna teach on love two weeks before Christmas, the Christmas message right before Christmas and how if you don’t believe in Jesus that you’ll go to hell on Christmas and Easter because the most heathens come to church at those times. These guys almost never listen to God and think like most current events teachers in high schools. They never hit the truth because they are being topical and hip. If I want a hip pastor, I’ll invent American Idol the Church or CSI the Church. Imagine coming every Sunday to those.

You get the idea. Sometimes people aren’t the problem. The biggest problem in the church today is that the truth isn’t being taught. Today’s Wisdom from the words of Proverbs is the following from chapter nine. I’ll start in verse seven and go through verse twelve.

Pro 9:7 "Whoever corrects a mocker invites insult; whoever rebukes a wicked man incurs abuse.
Pro 9:8 Do not rebuke a mocker or he will hate you; rebuke a wise man and he will love you.
Pro 9:9 Instruct a wise man and he will be wiser still; teach a righteous man and he will add to his learning.
Pro 9:10 "The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.
Pro 9:11 For through me your days will be many, and years will be added to your life.
Pro 9:12 If you are wise, your wisdom will reward you; if you are a mocker, you alone will suffer."

When people, pastors/teachers/laymen, give correction, the people that hear that correction aren’t always wanting to be corrected. However, verses 8-9 give us insight into the real result of truth. If you correct a person that is really intent on learning, he’ll love you and get smarter. That’s what I want. You don’t have to love me, but I do want you to grow in wisdom. The real payoffs are in verses 11-12. You’ll live a longer life on average if you take in wisdom and that wisdom will reward you in your life. Does that mean you’ll get rich? Financially, maybe not, but in the membrane, you’ll be endlessly rewarded. Also, you’ll be living a blessed life of God. That’s what I want most for you, a blessed life from our Heavenly Father.

I love you guys!
Frank

Monday, May 11, 2009

Marriage Monday: Better Make a Deposit



Hey gang!

Time for another Marriage Monday. The video above has nothing to do with today’s piece, but is really funny for couples that have a sense of humor.

Today’s piece is from the Mitch Temple book, The Marriage Turnaround, How Thinking Differently About Your Relationship Can Change Everything. In this excerpt, Mitch talks about how marriages are similar to bank accounts. It has some really good advice to keep your marriage out of marital bankruptcy.

The thing about old cliches is that some of them have been repeated endlessly through the years because they contain enduring truth. But maybe some of those truths need a fresh spin, or a new perspective.

Take that old saying your grandmother used to tell you: “You need to save up for a rainy day.” Well, there’s wisdom in that , but I’d like to take it beyond the piggy bank or your passbook account at the bank. In the context of our discussion in these pages, I would urge you to make small, consistent investments in your marriage. In other words, commit yourself to relationship banking.

That’s a concept that’s been around for a while, and I can understand why. It’s a simple but effective analogy.

Relationship banking simply says that you must put deposits each day into your spouse’s account. The more deposits you make, the better off your marriage will be. No matter how skilled you are and how much the two of you love each other, it’s inevitable that withdrawals will occur from time to time. Withdrawals are anything negative that causes a spouse hurt or negative feelings.

In real-life banking, what happens when you make more withdrawals than deposits? Overdraft. The same is true for your marriage. If you make more withdrawals than deposits, your relationship will become bankrupt.

When you were dating, you probably spent as much as thirty hours a week together. Because of that amount of time, you put multiple deposits in each other’s account. This built closeness and trust. You felt like this person you were dating was the queen or king of the world, and you treated him or her accordingly.

During the first couple years of marriage, you likely continued to add more deposits than withdrawals. But nothing in life is static. Because of stressors, hurt, resentment, and misunderstandings, you are now making fewer deposits and more withdrawals. The economy in your marriage has gotten way out of balance. Things are not as good as before. If you aren’t careful, you’ll go into the red. Your marriage will become bankrupt.

Something has to change. You must go back to the basics. Start putting deposits back in your spouse’s account no matter whether he or she understands, accepts it, or even reciprocates. No matter how your spouse treats you, do it anyway. Remember, in your vows you said, “For better or for worse.”

As I mentioned earlier, serving each other can turn a marriage around in a heartbeat.

What are some ways to put deposits in your spouse’s account?
1. Cut down on the withdrawals. If you know what actions or attitudes constitute withdrawals for your spouse, then stop these immediately. If you aren’t certain what they are, ask your spouse to list two or three withdrawals on a piece of paper, and then offer suggestions on ways you can stop the withdrawals.

2. Perform random acts of kindness. Think of something that you have done for your spouse in the past-something that made him or her feel good. Do it again and surprise your spouse. Think of something you may have intended to do but have not yet one. If you are the guy, make sure the action does not have sexual attachments. Consider offering your wife a night alone with the girls or a gift certificate for one to a local restaurant. Or gals, offer your husband a coupon for a round of golf, sex on a night other than the designated times, or take his car to have it washed. Notes, cards, and kind and flattering words go a long way also. These are all simple ways to make deposits in your spouse’s account.

3. Don’t expect return deposits. That’s not the idea. Maybe those reciprocal deposits will come, or maybe they won’t. You can’t focus on that, and you shouldn’t be keeping an account. If all you can think about is giving to get, then you really haven’t engaged in giving at all. Besides, your expectations may far exceed what your spouse is capable of that point in the process. Sure, you can suggest deposits…but don’t over-anticipate. Don’t let yourself become hurt or resentful if they fall below your desires. Simply embrace and celebrate the deposits as they come and continue to make daily deposits in your spouse’s account.

4. Be sure to acknowledge your spouse’s investments. If your husband or wife has taken the time and thought to make a direct deposit in your marriage account, be aware of it. Let your mate know how much the action or word meant to you. Really praise your spouse and reinforce the behavior so it will likely occur again. Men, especially, are like puppies, so reinforce the behaviors you want them to repeat.

5. Realize that withdrawals are a reality! No one can be around another human being for very long without making a withdrawal. Learn to accept the fact that your spouse is human and will make mistakes. Some little, and some not so little. Don’t question his or her integrity simply because he or she drew down their account. Don’t blow the situation out of proportion. Learn to choose your battles. Ask, “Is this something that’s really worth the energy to respond to?” and “Can I live with this mistake, especially in light of the fact that my spouse just made a deposit an hour ago?” Give each other permission to make occasional withdrawals, but commit to making at least three deposits for every withdrawal and watch your marriage become healthy and vibrant again.” (Pages 158-161)

You can get this book or the books that also refer the Love Bank concept, Love Busters or His Needs/Her Needs. Both of those books are by Dr. William Harley.

I love you guys!
Frank

Saturday, May 9, 2009

Some trends at Agapefest worth mentioning





Hey gang!

It’s a whole week after Agapefest and I have one more article in me about it. This one is about trends. In 1996, the video above was a remix version of one of the greatest Christian rock songs ever made, DC Talk’s Jesus Freak. Debate with me over the best if you wish, but the original might be my favorite song in Christian music of all time.

It is 13 years later and Tait is singing with the Newsboys. I never imagined anyone other than Peter Furler singing lead for that group, EVER. Toby Mac headlined Agapefest on his Portable Sounds tour and Kevin Max is about ready to release another album. He’s even written poetry. All of these guys are now great in their own singular right, maybe not to the success of DC Talk, but pretty darn good.

While many bands have come and gone, these three guys broke up and have had success alone. I find it amazing how many fads have come and gone since they started rocking in 1990. Admit it, there have been a lot of them. Everything from it being the in thing to making blonde jokes to wearing your jeans backwards.

Here are a couple trends of fads that I’ve noticed at Agapefest.

The first trend is an awesome one that I hope sticks around. There were teens all over carrying signs about “Free Hugs”. There was a survey when I was in college in 1991 that stated for every time that someone is knocked down verbally or in any other way that it takes an average of six good happenings to recover from it. These teens are making a whole lot of people feel good and not hurting anyone. I think this is a trend that adults could use IF they were a little more innocent than the average adult. Hugging is popular in church settings and between those of the female gender, but guys for the most part aren’t huggers and if they are hugging women, usually outside the church, they aren’t up to any good. But I really liked this fad. I’m not sure some of them were impressed with my response. I told them they had to take my business card and come visit my website. I also took a picture of some of these teens holding the sign.

I had a little trouble with my camera this week, so I’ve been a little slow to put up this sign. I’m glad you teens are paying attention out there.

The other trend that I found interesting was painting on fake moustaches, beards and goatees. These kids are geniuses. I wish I had thought about that in high school. On second thought, people may have thought I was weirder than I am. Anyhow, the really strange twist was that girls seemed to be wearing them more than the guys. Honestly, I’m not sure how I feel about this trend, but as long as it’s in good fun, why not. I thought about painting one on by the end of the weekend, but I think going to church Sunday and trying to explain might have been harder for a 40 year old rather than a 17 year old.

Finally, the funniest thing I saw all weekend. I told you guys that this was a mud bowl due to the rain during the week before. I didn’t get a picture of this one, but it was genius, potentially funny, and potentially really dangerous. I’ll explain. Three young ladies got really smart as Saturday night approached and brought in kiddie pools to sit in. Genius. Really funny. I hope that my friend Alvin posts the picture he got from them. The potentially dangerous part was that Alvin and I saw three-wheelers going around the festival, used by the crew of course. However, we thought how dangerous it could be to hook these pools to them and drag them across the mud bowl at high speed. Potentially fun but potentially deadly. Maybe it’s not such a good idea.

So now, it’s your turn. Tell me some trends that you see at festivals. Good, bad or ugly.

I love you guys!
Frank

Friday, May 8, 2009

Prayerfully Minded Friday: Messages and a Want Ad



Hey gang!

Last week, we had Agapefest here in central Illinois and I still am feeling the effects of the great time I had out there. The music was phenomenal, but the speaking from my new friend Bob Lenz was just awesome. I’m not just saying that because he became my friend, the guy is truly gifted. He does what I and One Man Revival would like to eventually evolve into, writing and speaking engagements.

On Friday, Bob talked about continuing to push forward even in tough times, “When the world tells you no way, we say Yah-weh!” I love that. It’s one of those that I wish I had come up with. He’s got T-shirts that go with that message. It’s so true and that’s why it’s so powerful, IF we take it and run with it. We tend to work more in our own strength and leave God out of the equation. When that happens, our goals are going to fall short. That’s why I said yesterday that it’s not just important that I pray for One Man Revival, but that you do too. I want to see this ministry do so much for the Gospel, but if I try to do it within the strength of Frank, it will never be as good as it could be.

He talked Saturday night about how we give because we got a free gift from Christ. I missed the phraseology so I can’t share that one. He did talk about how his daughter Joy used to sing Joy To the World and that led his youngest, Tim, to sing Tim To the World. That’s how we’re supposed to do it. We’re giving us to the world to make a better place. If we truly do that, we’ll meet a potential that people will be amazed at. I won’t sing “Frank to the World”. That’s why I put up videos with my blogs. I may sing someday. But I’ll let it be a surprise.

But his best message was to youth leaders. He touched on it a little in each of the nightly messages, but he hit home with in talking with the leaders. He talked about how much we need accountability partners in our lives. He told us that he gets on the phone DAILY with his guys that ask him how he is doing in his walk. He answers their questions and they close with a last question that surprised me a little, “Did you just lie to me?” The closest I’ve ever had to that kind of accountability was at Bible Baptist almost seven years ago now. I had daily conversations with Randy Jackson. We walked together and kept each other accountable. I’m sorry to say that I’ve never had that kind of accountability before or since.

If you read yesterday’s message, you know that I told you that when I began One Man Revival that I asked a group of people to hold me accountable in my ministry and in my life. I would like to say that all of them said yes. Almost half didn’t even respond. I have four or five that keep me accountable occasionally. They’ll either call or email me and see how the ministry is going. Unfortunately, none of them ask the hard questions. So how am I living?

So today’s Prayerfully Minded Friday is not just a discussion of ideas to give you things to think about. Today is a want ad as well. People always tell me to be careful what I pray for, so I thought long and hard before I ever put this on paper.

Wanted: Christian friends wanted to help a man walk with Christ and with them as a friend who will hold and asks to be held accountable not only for his ministry, but also for his life. Must be able to deal with a cantankerous, sarcastic, sometimes raucous, loud and always funny (but occasionally walks over the line of PC). The pay is terrible financially, but you will be paid with a friend who will be eternally grateful and you will probably receive sainthood in Heaven for dealing with. People who want true friendship should apply, acquaintances should also feel free to step up and throw in an application as well.

So, do you know me well enough to be that friend? If you don’t think you’re qualified, please, please, please pray that people that are already in my life step up to the demand. They could be surprised with the results.

Other things you might want to pray for today:

My friend Shelly from yesterday. Keep praying for her health.

Pray for the community of people that I run into daily on Facebook, MySpace, Shoutlife, Livejournal and here in the community of Effingham. I want each person that I run into to have a desire to change their world for the better.

Pray that our churches continue to preach the truth in love and if they don’t to start doing so. There are so many people out in this economy that are truly hurting that need our love and support.

Pray for our President and America’s government. This economy has put fear and trembling into people including our leaders. Pray that they use their heads and their hearts to make a better country. For those of you around the world, pray for the same in your country.

Pray for peace in the wars of this world. I know the Bible tells us that there will almost always be wars, but that protection for those in the fighting that they may hear the Good News of the Gospel and their hearts be changed.

Finally, pray for our youth. I saw so many teenagers that made commitments to God last weekend at Agapefest. Pray that these are able to keep the faith and grow to be tomorrow’s leaders that will make this planet a better place to live on.

I love you guys!
Frank

Thursday, May 7, 2009

2009 Nat'l Day of Prayer: Why I pray

Hey gang!

Today is Thursday, May 7th and in America, the day is recognized as The National Day of Prayer. The day was started back in 1952. I knew it had been around awhile, even though I didn’t realize there had been 58 of them. Oh yeah, no video today. I want you focused.

I sat around thinking about what I would say and I thought about doing the tried and true meaning of the day on the national level and tell you about what the organizers would like you to do. But I choose not to do that. I may talk about the 7x7 program in the near future that they are also doing, but I’m not doing that today either. Instead, what I would like to talk about is why prayer is so important here for this ministry, One Man Revival.

When the wheels started turning on this ministry back in August 2008, it was originally thought that I would type up nice little encouragements and that would be the extent of it. However, it became more than that. Every ministry needs to have a purpose and I was asked by people what that purpose was. Truthfully, I hated to have to answer, “well, we’re just encouraging people.” I do hope that I am encouraging with the words I type, but I also want to be more than that. I want to challenge people to be stronger Christians.

That’s when it hit me. As much as I want to encourage people and as much as I want to see people come to salvation, the real challenge is to challenge and disciple people in the faith. One of my natural knocks on the church in general is that they fail Christians today by just giving the fire insurance policy at the door and never really require you to come to the altar and examine yourself. It’s not just about accepting the free gift that Jesus gave us by dying on the cross. It’s the huge first step, but not the end game.

Jesus called us to a Great Commission. Here’s what Jesus said at the end of Matthew beginning in verse 18, “All authority has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

He told us to go. He didn’t tell us to sit like a bump on a log in our comfortable pew chairs. He didn’t say hang on to what I gave you, go home and watch TV until your eyes are bloodshot. He didn’t say, go take a nap and Gabriel will wake you when we need you. That means me. That means you. Now, do we have to go to another country. No. I’m not telling you all to start your own internet ministry either. I’m telling you to start in your community. If you’re graced with some cool people in your town, you’ll find someone else that is to take the long trips. Then help those people. Give them whatever they need. Be it money, be it clothes, be it toys, anything. First and foremost, give them your prayers. Having others telling Jesus, “Hey, this person is doing something great for you. I’d like to be there with them. But since I’m not, would you please take care of this person? Not only are they special to you, they are special to me.” Jesus will do it. Ask any missionary what he covets most. They will tell you it’s the prayers that keep them going.

Let me get off my soapbox and come back to my ministry. That’s why it is so important to me. I realize that there are so many people out there that could be changed by the words I type. That’s a huge responsibility. Do you realize that someone from my current town reads me from New Zealand. One of my neighbors told me his daughter has been reading One Man Revival for a month or so. It gave me energy to finish cutting my yard and come inside and do a few other things even when I was tired. I love that these words are up for the entire world.

That’s why prayer is so important to my ministry. I have to choose my words carefully and cautiously. I said something on my Facebook page yesterday that was totally innocent, but being the comedian that I am, I said it in a crazy way rather than directly. I got called out on it. A friend of mine told me that I needed to pick better wording. I knew what I was saying, but people actually read what I say. They can take it the wrong way. They can think that I am not sincere in what I am saying. They can totally lose respect for me by the way I say something. That didn’t happen, but it’s good that I have you guys out there looking out for me.

Some of you tell me that you don’t just look out for me by checking how grammatically correct I am, but you pray that I use wisdom in what I say. Believe me, if no other person of Christian influence tells you this, I TOTALLY APPRECIATE THAT YOU CARE ENOUGH TO DO THAT. Yes, I’m screaming. Because it’s true.

Bob Lenz talked over the weekend about how important it was that we find accountability partners to help keep us on the straight and narrow. That is so important. When you pray, you’ve become a partner with this ministry. TV ministries will tell you that when you give money, that’s when you’re a partner. If you want to donate money to this ministry, you can email me and I’ll tell you how, but that’s not why I do what I do. I covet your prayers first. That’s the biggest aid to me.

I tell Peter Brown, Dick White and Bob Jones all the time how much prayer has influenced this ministry. It’s taken me from the real baby steps of writing occasionally to full-time dedication. It’s taken me from just being on MySpace to being on Shoutlife, Facebook, Blogger and Live Journal. Five places to find me. Prayer gave me the great idea to have days dedicated. That’s how Marriage Mondays, Wisdom Wednesdays and Prayerfully Minded Fridays came into being. There’s also the thought of Manly Weekend Blogs, but that’s still in the prayer process, too.

Anyhow, I asked 13 people to be accountability partners when I started. Not all of them were able to accept because of how full their plates were. That’s why occasionally, I’ll ask someone who is really reading the web page or who has become more than just an acquaintance in my life for input. Some of you will give me input for free and please continue. I get my best constructive criticism from those that care enough to email me. I also get blasted occasionally, but we have to accept the tough with the brutal. That’s why I always pray the serenity prayer.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And the wisdom to know the difference.

In closing, I’ll tell you what I pray for when I can.

First, there are times I have to pray quick in the battle of my day. I pray for wisdom to discipline my kids the right way, love my wife as I should, be kind and courteous to those I encounter and to carry a Christian attitude as I walk my day.

I always pray for my kids first. Two reasons. First, because they are the closest people to me in proximity all of the time and secondly, because my actions speak the loudest into their lives. If I mess up, normally they will be the first to see it.

I pray for my wife. We’ve been together for six and half years. We’ve not always been great to each other and sometimes she is the biggest thorn in my side. I love her more than anything though. She works her butt off to allow me to spend time with my kids and do this ministry. We’re not rich and that’s her biggest fear, financial protection. But she had placed that aside to love me and the kids.

I pray for my pastors. Past and present. They have had impact in my life. Good and bad. The three I presently I sit under I can’t talk enough about or pray for enough. They’ve let me inside the veil to know that they are three of the busiest men I’ve ever met. They impact countless people daily and they need my prayer to keep a level mind walking through the mine field.

I pray for my leaders. Everyone from Obama on down to the local level. I pray for my buddy Ron on the park board. My kids need a great place to play and now he has the responsibility of helping make that happen. Let’s be honest, here in America the times we are going through make prayer almost mandatory. Christianity was one of the foundations of this country (those of you that don’t agree and don’t like that better read an accurate history book) and prayer helps carry us through these trying times.

I pray for my church. We have a lot of people and have one of the strongest youth to teen ministry churches in the area. We are influencing Effingham’s youth for a better tomorrow. Today’s children will be picking my nursing home tomorrow (hopefully not). We have an opportunity to impact change.

I pray for my friends. I could tell you stories of what people are going through but that’s their business and they can share if they want. Most of them appreciate it even if they never tell me.

I pray for my community. Effingham is a little town in southern Illinois that holds about 12,000 people. If you come from the west or south, you will notice that little cross at our border (ok, so it’s only like 200 feet tall). We are a God believing people. I also pray for Kissimmee, Florida, and most of central West Virginia where I grew up. Anywhere there’s people I love, I pray for.

I pray for my readers. Yeah, if you subscribe to One Man Revival in any community of the internet and your name is on the list, I pray for you. I may not mention you by name everyday, but I do think about you. What I say probably has some influence on your life or you would’ve left by now, so I better be right and real with you.

Lastly, I pray for the unsaved that have never read me or have never met a person that can lead them to Christ. I totally realize that One Man Revival and my time here is not about me (even thought sometimes I wish it were), it’s about a relationship with the one and only true savior that will be able to punch your ticket into heaven. You can’t get in just because you read One Man Revival (I wish you could). You get in because you receive a free gift from Jesus and then go and try to make a difference in this world for the Kingdom. I’m not saying that once you get the gift, you have to earn it to keep it. What I am saying is that once you have the gift, you can’t help but want to spread it around.

Finally, today, if you get a chance, please pray for my friend Shelly Crane. Shelly and I went to high school together and she was one of the kindest people I knew then. Right now, she’s laying in a hospital in North Carolina and is suffering from blood clotting and a diagnosis I can’t even pronounce. She has been blinded because of this. She’s depressed and hurting. Pray for her healing and that the right people are given the chance to just love on her to show her that regardless of the circumstances, God is with her and his grace is sufficient.

I love you guys!
Frank